WHAT IS CHARISMA

Everyone has an idea of what they think charisma is, in each and everyone's opinion, they simply might be right. Charisma is what charisma is to Alves, to jennifer, to Kante and so on; but the question lies on how it has been personally approached, implemented or radiated.

First off, Charisma in my view is an exceptional carriage a man possess that could invariably influence the decision of another and earn him certain degree of respect within his circle.

During the reign of the 44th president of the United State Of America in person of President Barrack Obama, one could see how easily he could influence decision of other world leaders and still earn his indisputable charm. From the way he spoke his words, to how he walked, smiled and had things in motion, was charming and admired even from a distance, and this is one very aspect of a charismatic personality.

The questions begs: What could one simply look at those moments and take off as lesson learnt?

Many make the mistake of taking arrogance for charisma, but arrogance is arrogance, a display of emboldened disregard for the opinion or plight of others for self centered reasons with quite an attitude, also regarded as being "Bossy".

Charisma on the other hand has its own cruelty, but not to the complete utter disregard for another, but making good selfless decisions regardless of the cost, and shouldering so much courage that could as well cater for others. It requires so much strength drawn from within oneself to be the shoulder for a number of people, being looked up to at critical moments and has no room for weakness.

With all that being said, question number 2 begs: Do you see this traits in your personality?

From this angle, one should have a feel of what this charm called "CHARISMA" is about, all the sparkling aura it scents off, creating an undisputed presence and noticable absence, carrying so much positive energy that could lighten an entire room or space.

The way words are confidently spoken, steps are taken majestically, decisions are swift, actionable and yielding positive results, we could come to the conclusion that no man is born with this trait, it's groomed either intentionally or not. 

Years of practicing self confidence, seeking advance knowledge and managing critical positions could realign your cerebral cortex in ways a man would never have imagined. While in the time of these processes, immediate slight changes would definitely come to the attention of your circle and might hand you well deserving accolades, it's best to keep forging in seeking personal growth than dwelling in the moment.

The 3rd question lies as to how can charisma be achieved with all that's being said?

Well, I guess I've been able to ascribe so much of the topic in a lame man's understanding in the best possible way I can. All lies within a self intentional developmental pursuit:

• Institutional academics, and readings of books outside your main educational focus.

• Having an iota of knowledge on every topic.

• Engaging in public speaking, sharpening your diction, and being outspoken when necessary.

• Depth thinking rather than a peripheral thought to issues (critical thinking), being a problem solver rather than dwelling on the issue.

• Being objective and firm, but also comparing opinions in important decision making.

• Having a positive attitude to things mentally.

• Ensuring financial stability: avoid debts, stick to budget and find an extra legal means of additional income.

• Be emotionally astounding, learn to deal with your heartaches without openly feeling dejected and always try to seek a partner with same pursuit or one willing to adapt.